So tell me, where in the Bible does it say it’s OK to run away from problems? Where does it say that we shouldn’t say anything that’s true if it could hurt someone else’s feelings—or rock the boat?

In Ephesians 4:5 it does tell us to “speak the truth in love.” Notice how it doesn’t say “don’t speak the truth in love”? There’s a big difference there. We aren’t supposed to remain silent while walking gingerly around the egg shells.

Most of us hate arguing, conflict, or any type of disagreement no matter who it’s with. Disagreements with students and parents, especially, can be stressful to teachers. We just don’t want to deal with it. Then again, you might have people in your life who love to argue. If we’re all honest, we sometimes just want to tell ‘em like it is! Right? I mean, give it to them straight with no sugar coating.

Things you might like to say to parents or students could be “You should really help your student with homework” or “Your attitude in class really stinks.” You probably have your own burning statements you’d like to scream out in parent-teacher conferences.

What to do, what to do.

As Christians, we know we need to speak the truth in love, but what does that mean? It means not avoiding the conflict. It means approaching the situation logically, carefully, and with thoughtfulness. It means not being rash, speaking in anger or with heated emotions, or lashing out. Boy, that sounds tough, doesn’t it?

It is possible to have disagreements but be loving at the same time. Only if we confront conflict with God’s help, while mirroring His love when He corrects us. Ignoring conflict is ignoring God’s plan for us to grow as individuals.

Are you up for the challenge?

What conflicts are hard for you to address as a teacher? Share your story.